This course introduces you to the concept of conflict transformation and how it differs from conflict resolution, management, and prevention. We’ll see how conflict offers opportunities for constructive change, and we'll explore different tools and methods for engaging conflict constructively. Regardless of your familiarity with the topic, you'll get insightful tips, portable handouts, lively demonstrations, and personalized assignments to bridge and enhance your own knowledge and history within the conflict narrative. In any area of your life, you'll benefit from the practical techniques and transferable information offered throughout this five-week journey.
The Role of the Mediator
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Del curso dictado por Emory University
Conflict Transformation
124 calificaciones
De la lección
Doing Well in the Middle
This module will discuss mediation and circle processes and guidelines for facilitating or participating in one of these processes.
Conoce a los instructores
Ellen Ott MarshallAssociate Professor of Christian Ethics and Conflict Transformation
Candler School of Theology
With that basic overview of the phases of a mediation in front of us,
let's focus a bit more on the role of the mediator.
For this, I'm drawing on a really helpful manual called
"Peace Skills: Manual for Community Mediation,"
and this is put together by Ron Kraybill,
Robert Evans, and Alice Frazer Evans.
In this manual, they provide a helpful list of what mediators do
and do not do.
In their words, "Mediators do not make decisions for other people
or tell them what to do.
They don't seek power over the lives of others.
They don't have answers to other people's problems.
They do not bear the responsibility if the mediation
fails, assuming they've done a reasonably good job of mediating.
Mediators do not take credit if the mediation is successful,
even if they have done a brilliant job of mediating."
By contrast, Kraybill, Evans, and Evans
assert that, "Mediators must be truly committed to serving other people.
Mediators must be willing to work very hard,
and yet to see that the disputing parties get credit for their hard work.
They have to see the parties themselves
as the people primarily responsible for resolving the conflict.
Mediators consult with the parties at every step of the way.
And they see their task as working themselves out of a job."
Now I share this list, from the manual, because it's incredibly helpful
to all of us inclined to step in and help people with their problems.
What's key to good mediation, what makes mediation successful,
is the empowerment of the parties to solve their own problems.
And this is a lesson we can take with us everywhere we go.
Engaging conflict constructively
requires us to design and implement process
that empower people to work through their own problems
and identify their own paths forward.
So let's talk a little bit about deep listening,
which is the kind of listening that mediators
and also circle facilitators do, and we're going to talk about circle facilitators
in the next few lessons.
The point here is that mediators are listening on multiple levels.
They're listening for positions, for interests, and needs, right?
They're listening for many different things, some said and some unsaid.
They're also listening in a way that affirms the parties who are speaking.
One of the ways that they do this is to paraphrase.
Now, a paraphrasing can be incredibly irritating, right?
One of the most irritating things in the world
is to have someone say to you, "So what I hear you saying is."
There are these catchphrases
that we use when we're paraphrasing and they become irritating,
especially when you're already frustrated and anxious.
So, that's not the kind of paraphrasing I'm talking about.
I want you to think more deeply about the mechanics of paraphrasing.
What's happening in paraphrasing
is that you are giving the other person your fullest attention.
You're trying to capture not just their words so you can say the words back to them,
but you're really listening for the meaning of their words
so that you can communicate that the meaning has been captured, right?
It's not just the words you're saying back, it's the meaning.
Also, when you're paraphrasing, you're listening without judgment or evaluation.
Now pause for a minute and think how rare that is.
Most of the time when we're listening to people,
we're listening with a judgmental ear, or an ear of evaluation or criticism.
Paraphrasing, as a habit or a discipline,
is this capacity to listen without that constant judgmental tone, right?
You're listening with a posture of openness,
and then communicating back not just the words, but the meaning in a non-judgmental way.
The other thing that's happening in paraphrasing
is that you are acknowledging the emotion or the feeling level of the statements.
And again that's incredibly important.
It's not just that I'm saying I heard you say that you are mad,
but I'm communicating to you
that I understand that you are mad, right?
I see the anger that this experience has raised in you.
Another kind of active listening habit that mediators cultivate,
and something that I think we can all learn from,
is the practice of posing open questions.
Now these are questions that a mediator poses in the course of the storytelling phase
or the problem solving phase,
and there are questions that might be intended for clarification or to generate ideas.
But what I want to do is to read
a number of these questions to you so that you can hear them.
Again they're open ended, they're elicitive questions, right?
You're trying to elicit information from people, and they're not judgmental questions.
So listen to what they sound like.
These are open questions: Can you describe what happened
at that leadership meeting from your perspective?
How have you been feeling and what have you been thinking about since then?
Right?
These are questions that are trying to tease out a person's story.
What more would you like us to know?
Sometimes you can pose a question in the form of a statement.
I would really like to hear more about that.
Or, can you help me understand?
Right?
How did you feel about that?
Is it a classic open question?
Can you say more about why you felt that way.
So these are questions, again, not to
routinize in your speech so that you parrot them back,
but it's the form of the question that I'm trying to emphasize.
It's a way of listening to people, and to elicit their perspective
in an open and non-judgmental pattern of communication.
There are also questions that are used to dig a little deeper.
So let me tell you what those questions sound like.
What has been especially hard for you?
Right?
What's important to you?
What are you concerned about?
What do you love about this place?
Now let me pause on that one.
I'm going to talk a little bit later
about the importance of encouraging people to not only focus on
the problem, the concern, the anxiety,
but also to shift, to articulate what their love is or their hope.
Right?
And so this is a question that's beginning to make that turn.
'What do you love about this place', rather than 'what's wrong in this situation'.
So tuck that away, that's something we'll come back to.
That you might think about some contrasting questions, right?
What worries do you have about this place,
community, or school, paired with, what hopes do you have for this place,
community, or school?
'What would you like to see happen?
'- is a classic elicitive question.
It's inviting people to envision their future individually
or ideally in a collaborative way, right?
And it's again giving them some power to articulate their hopes for the future,
not to keep focusing on the problems.
You can see how questions like this help the mediator
to get an increased
and deeper understanding, but also continue
to empower their participants to articulate their
own concerns and hopes, so that they stay in control of the process
and feel empowered to identify desired outcomes.
One of the most important things that I have learned
is that when we are in conflict,
we get completely focused on all that is wrong in a place or in a relationship.
All of those perceived problems certainly need to be articulated and examined.
But one of the most constructive things that we do for one another
in the midst of conflict
is to ask two other kinds of crucial questions.
What do you really care about here?
What's most important to you?
And what do you hope for, what do you want to see?
In conflict transformation, mediation constitutes one of many tools employed.
So we might think of mediation
as a practice that is shared among these different schools of thought.
But there are also some differences between management,
resolution, and transformation, and the way that they approach mediation.
If we place these approaches on a spectrum,
management is most concerned about the outcome,
and transformation is most concerned about the relationship.
Resolution tends to float around a bit on this spectrum, depending on the mediator,
and on the way they understand the concept of resolution
and what it requires.
If you want to understand this area of transformative mediation more fully,
I recommend "The Promise of Mediation: The Transformative Approach to Conflict"
by Robert Baruch Bush and Joseph Folger.
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