I'm going to be following my heart and I'm going to be spontaneous,
even those ideas actually come from specific scripts.
That are made available, or possible possible by societies.
So in different historical periods and
in different societies people would have different types of expectations
with regard to what a relationship would look like.
Say for example, you're in a total feudalistic patriarchal context,
you do not really think that you can fall in love because everything is arranged
by your parents.
Then you move into this situation with a totally different set of scripts.
So in each society it has its own kind of scripts that people would be following.
And each of these scripts, I must say, would also carry its own traps.
And I say, for example, when you're in a highly regulated patriarchal context,
if you follow the script, then obviously you would have very limited space for
your personal expression, autonomy and choice, right?
And here in the West when we talk about our dominant or
populous groups those would involve having people think about lifelong,
monogamous, exclusive marriages.
Very often people are even imagining only heterosexual relationships.
These kind of scripts also carry their own traps.
One obvious example is that most people believe that the �normal�
relationship is where man, woman fall in love, get engaged,
get married, and live happily ever after.
Well, we have decades of social research showing us that it is
not really the case for a lot of people.
>> Mm-hm.